So now, we are in the second week of February and hopefully, you’ve read the last article and are actively taking a part in acknowledging who you are, embracing that part of you, and being kind to yourself. If you haven’t read that article yet, go back and read it first. You can find it here.
Let’s dive a little deeper.
Being single doesn’t mean that you don’t get your needs met, even when they are emotional needs.
Loneliness has a way of setting in when we are needing that connection with someone- someone to tell us it’s going to be okay, or laugh with us, take us out to eat or draw us a nice bath. Ask yourself, if I had a significant other, what would I want them to do for me right now? Do that for yourself. I know it seems weird, but it really works! You really can console yourself and you know what? It feels even better when you do it for yourself for two reasons: you get exactly what you want, the way you want it and there’s a certain bliss that comes along when you begin to understand that you are providing for your own needs.
Sometimes, we really do need other people. In those times, lean on your friends and family. They can fill a space in your life that no one else can fill. Typically, they’ve known us forever and for whatever reason, through all our quirkiness, they love us! It is understood by those people, exactly what we are needing at any given moment.
So, when was the last time you dated yourself?
- Have you bought you something amazing recently?
- Have you taken yourself to your favorite restaurant or out to a movie?
- Have you pampered yourself?
- Have you told yourself how amazing you are?
If you are looking for love, you must learn to do this before you embark on a relationship. Contrary to popular belief, it is not someone else’s job to give you these things. It is yours, solely. It is not selfish. It is not a luxury. It is an obligation. You are required to be the best version of yourself that you can be BEFORE you enter a relationship with another human being and this is the way that happens- by learning to take care of your own needs – financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
If you are happy with the single life, the same still applies. You must do these things in order to be the best version of yourself!
Your homework assignment is going to be the best assignment you’ve ever had!
Go be you!
Go have some fun!
Give yourself some things that you want and need!
And most of all, smile. Because you did this by yourself, for yourself.