Ahhh….it’s February and love is in the air <3
And as February rolls around again, you are single. It can feel so lonely thinking about dates, chocolates and flowers, watching couples kiss and hold hands, knowing that they are going home together while, you are going home alone.
But, all is not lost. And honestly, it’s not that bad. In fact, being single could be the best gift of all. All month long, I’m going to be writing articles, just for you!
Let’s start with falling in love with yourself.
What are those things that you wish others would recognize and acknowledge about you?
- Are you a great listener?
- Do you drop everything for your friends when they need you?
- Do you possess talents that you wish others would notice?
Let me ask you, how often do you acknowledge and tell yourself that you love these things about you?
Secondly, what are your favorite things?
- Hot bath?
- A book and a fire by the fireplace?
- A night out with friends?
- A new pair of shoes?
Do you treat yourself to the things you love most? Or do you tell yourself that you don’t have time?
Now, I want you to write down (or tell yourself) the three most important characteristics for your significant other to possess. What are they?
- They must be forgiving?
These are some of the most common answers that I hear when I ask people to do this. But then, I ask them. So….how forgiving have you been to yourself? How loving are you to you? Are you patient with yourself? Are you honest with yourself? Do you give to you? The answer is almost always “no.” So why wouldn’t you be lonely? If you are constantly looking for someone else to give you something that you aren’t willing to give yourself, even when someone does give to you, you won’t accept it because you won’t feel deserving. You don’t feel deserving because whether you realize it or not, every time that you aren’t giving one of these things to yourself, you are actively telling yourself that you don’t deserve it. You must give yourself what you want others to give you. You must treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
Start today. Fall in love with you, for who you are. You are beautiful. You are worth all of this and much more. And you are worth receiving from yourself.